The Birth of a Muslimah

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For many female converts who grew up in America, namely those who had lifestyles that were very “American” or different from an “Islamic lifestyle”, most tend to share the same issues when they first embrace Islam.  Do I have to stop plucking my eyebrows?  Can I still wear nail polish?  Is hijab mandatory?  I cant see myself wearing it all the time!  I have to throw away all my clothes.  Wearing a jilbab makes me look like an old lady!  I feel like everyone is judging me! 

These questions and feelings are typical as a new Muslimah is going through transitional phases.  Then you will have sisters in every direction giving advice on what she should and shouldnt be doing or wearing. Although I am sure our dear sisters are well-intentioned, for a newly converted American Muslimah, focusing on these issues may tend to be overwhelming for them.  These issues are what is focused on primarily because they are evident, noticed, on display and subject to judgment.  Of course, there are always exceptions to the case, but for the majority who commonly face these issues, or if you know someone who can relate, this is for you.

Every time we go through a life altering change in our lives, whether it is going away to college, getting married, having your first baby, starting a new career, etc., we are not expected to jump right into the swing of things completely and perfectly.  We will make mistakes, and learn from them while gaining experience.  There will be feelings of uncertainty, insecurity, and questioning our capabilities as we embrace this new role in our life.  The same goes for embracing a religion.  It wont be perfect in the beginning.  It wont be perfect even after a few years.  We are human. 

The good news is, that Islam is easy.  Allah never intended on making the religion hard for us.  All those issues are part of a necessary transition that we must go through in order for growth to occur.  Through transition, growth is given room to flourish.  Even though these issues do have a place in Islam, each with its own rulings to abide by, they do not define the essence of what Islam is.  Islam is simple, it is about a very important concept – “Tawheed” or Monotheism.  Giving our Creator His due right of sole worship, in every which way and form, totally belonging to Him and only Him.  This is what separates Islam from every other religion.  From this concept, once it is understood, engrained and firmly rooted in us, all the other little pieces will come together in it’s due time.

I often think about an email that circulates the cyberworld.  It is called “Parent Job Description”.  Here it is:

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My Hijab

What do you see when you look at me
Do you see someone limited, or someone free?

All some people can do is just look and stare
Simply because they can’t see my hair.

Others think I am controlled and uneducated
They think that I am limited and un-liberated.

                       

They are so thankful that they are not me
Because they would like to remain ‘free.’

Well free isn’t exactly the word I would’ve used
Describing women who are cheated on and abused.

They think that I do not have opinions or voice
They think that being hooded isn’t my choice.

They think that the hood makes me look caged
That my husband or dad are totally outraged.

All they can do is look at me in fear
And in my eye there is a tear.

 

Not because I have been stared at or made fun of
But because people are ignoring the One up Above.

On the Day of Judgment they will be the fools
Because they were too ashamed to play by their own rules.

Maybe the guys won’t think I am a cutie
But at least I am filled with more inner beauty.

See I have declined from being a guy’s toy
Because I won’t let myself be controlled by a boy.

Real men are able to appreciate my mind
And aren’t busy looking at my behind.

 

Islam is my way

 

Hooded girls are the ones really helping the Muslim cause
The role that we play definitely deserves applause.

I will be recognized because I am smart and bright
And because some people are inspired by my sight.

The smart ones are attracted by my tranquility
In the back of their mind they wish they were me.

We have the strength to do what we think is right
Even if it means putting up a life-long fight.

You see we are not controlled by a miniskirt and tight shirt
We are given only respect, and never treated like dirt.

So you see, we are the ones that are free and liberated
We are not the ones that are sexually terrorized and violated.

We are the ones that are free and pure
We’re free of STD’s that have no cure.

So when people ask you how you feel about the hood
Just sum it up by saying ‘Baby, its all good!’
 

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